Life Learnings

It’s hard to get to know someone and what they value online. Here’s a list of things I’m learning that hopefully gives you a sense of who I am.

It’s hard to truly understand why you’re afraid of something until you’re right in front of it.
Even when it feels like it’s you against the world, it’s always just you versus you.
Feeling strong purpose in life is one of the most important attributes to my happiness
When the dust settles, reasons get retroactively moralized or forgotten. The only thing that really matters is whether you won… or lost.
It’s fine if the outcomes motivate you, but you must learn to love the craft along the way.
Every game in life is just you vs you. It’s you vs the voice in your head.
Cherish the days where your friends are close and down to hang. It’s magical when your life paths align, because it only becomes rarer as you get older (source)
Validation-based metrics of self worth will always fail since they are fully out of your control. Measure yourself by things that are in your control.
Don’t ever let someone tell you you’re not good enough. Not your friends, not your parents, and especially not yourself. Protect your dreams.

My social battery is only depleted from a lack of genuineness, otherwise there’s no limit
The more you trust yourself, the more yourself you become.
Vulnerability and complaining are two different things — one aims to make a connection with the other person, the other seeks validation. Be vulnerable, but don’t complain. (related: Only complain if it helps you relate to someone else or it’s a funny story. It is never enjoyable to hear otherwise.)
Confidence is what gives you the ability to be more true to yourself. Aim to raise your own confidence and the confidence of those around you.
Always doing what you say will make you a happier and less stressed person.

The ‘purity’ of your motivators doesn’t matter as long as you’re motivated and you have good values.